I am not saying it is the end all be all, nor am I presenting this as the only way to think about it, but maybe as a construct to think about things.
In summary there are three points: One, If you harass someone, expect to be harassed back. No one should be safe; Freemen just have to get creative when it comes to nobles. Two, there is a human on the other side of that screen trying to tell their story too. There is no reason to be a jerk about things, and there is a good chance that other person may need to go have a sandwich (HELP SANDWICH). This is OK. Third, if you really didn't enjoy something for an OOC reason, provide constructive feedback. I for one would love to hear something like, "Perhaps you should consider being a more graceful victim? Sitting there stoically while a red hot poker is pushed into your eye isn't really thematic." rather than losing a potential RP partner because they think I am horrible to RP with.

Remember, this is a game, we are all here to have fun.