relevant missing lines in the disconnect:
Spica says, "Part of that, Ostium, is learning the world and how your character could reasonably fit within it. Being too strange or weird is, unfortunately, a detriment. It can make you a target for the Order, and people might not want to get involved in that."
Ostium says, "Not really, I'll be in a tavern with 7 people, and pose things that make it obvious I'm not feeling good, and the people that I went out of my way to comfort when they were down ignore me to speak amongst themselves"